I am obsessed with this article and must share it with you. This very beautifully and gracefully addresses the problems of “humanism vs. feminism,” of people presuming that feminism is sexist, and so many other knee-jerk reactions I have witnessed to feminism.
Before you all start mouthing off about making unfair absolute statements, click and read – this is not coming from a place of anger and accusations. We bring understanding. If you take pride in intelligence then open your mind once more. We come in peace.
You can be the gentlest, sweetest man in the world yet still benefit from sexism. That’s how oppression works. Thousands of otherwise decent people are persuaded to go along with an unfair system because it’s less hassle that way. The appropriate response when somebody demands a change in that unfair system is to listen, rather than turning away or yelling, as a child might, that it’s not your fault. And it isn’t your fault. I’m sure you’re lovely. That doesn’t mean you don’t have a responsibility to do something about it….
…Somehow, it is still hard to talk to men about sexism without meeting a wall of defensiveness that shades into outright hostility, even violence. Anger is an entirely appropriate response to learning that you’re implicated in a system that oppresses women – but the solution isn’t to direct that anger back at women. The solution isn’t to shut down debate by accusing us of “reverse sexism”, as if that will somehow balance out the problem and stop you feeling so uncomfortable.
“Ignoring isn’t the same as ignorance, you have to work at it.”
-Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid’s Tale