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And now, a message from our fearless leader:

“We need to be a society that raises and encourages men and women to be as good and civil to one another as we know many already are, and so many more have the potential to be. We can not continue to be a society that excuses the violence of perpetrators by blaming the victims for their attire, behavior, and general ‘looks’. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2196076/Krista-Ford-sparks-outrage-telling-women-avoid-rape-dressing-like-whore.html

Sexual assault and violence is still a common occurrence in many countries who do not even permit women to show their faces. What is sexier than a woman completely covered in a black curtain? Pretty much everything. Yet, women who live in countries where they must wear burqas, and travel only with male relatives are still at high risk for sexual harassment, sexual assault, rape, acid burnings, and so forth and so on. Moreover, these women face severe shame and the death penalty for violence taken against them. http://www.nytimes.com/2008/11/05/world/africa/05somalia.html, http://blogs.aljazeera.com/blog/asia/no-justice-bangladesh-acid-attack-victims

Blaming the victim of sexual assault is akin to blaming a bank for being robbed because it was in a nice building, kept money, and was generally irresistible. Do we also blame the builders and workers in the Twin Towers for 9/11? Was it the towers’ fault for being too tall, not going down the first time (1993 WTC bombing), and for being too easy a target for bad people with planes?

The blame rests squarely with those who take the derisive action: not the victim. And it is the choice of every person, man and woman, to be respectful, courteous, and kind to everyone around them.

I firmly believe that we are by nature, good. It has been in our best interest to ‘play nice’ with others as we’ve evolved. How else would early-agrarian societies have formed were it not mutually beneficial for everyone involved? So it is beneficial to everyone now in a modern society to be good to one another. Specifically in the relationship and sexual realms where more people are hurt than has ever been reported for any statistician.

To those who continue to insist that a woman who was raped ‘brought it on herself for dressing like a slut’, we say ‘even if we walk down the street naked, we still have the right to not be raped’.

Remember, prominent members of the GOP have sponsored bills that take rights away from sexual assault victims, and give them to their perpetrators. Republicans have taken a firm stance against women’s rights to their own bodies. After that will they enact Anti-Rape Decency Dress Codes? They’ve been coming for our collective uteri for quite some time. Will they also hunt down the illustrious skinny jean and push-up bra?”

“”It’s Janine, telling about how she was gang-raped at fourteen and had an abortion… But whose fault was it? Aunt Helena says, holding up one plump finger.  Her fault, her fault, her fault, we chant in unison. Who led them on? Aunt Helena beams, pleased with us. She did. She did. She did.  Why did God allow such a terrible thing to happen? Teach her a lesson. Teach her a lesson. Teach her a lesson.

-Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid’s Tale

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